As our regular readers are well aware, we’ve been fighting a huuuuuge backlog over the past 8 months, but we’ve all been too busy to even get new mods to help out! And while Southie and Sea have been working really hard recently, the backlog is still out of hand, and we get more and more asks every day! But now we have our crap together and we’re looking for some new mods!
If you have some spare time to dedicate to this blog (not every day, as we obviously aren’t, but it would be nice if you could help out frequently) and you’ve always wanted to help out with people’s questions and concerns regarding asexuality, then please send in the following:
1. The name you’d like to be called.
2. A little “about you” blurb (ex: could include your romantic and sexual orientation, which pronouns you use, where you’re from, background, other identifiers you feel are important, etc).
3. Why you want to join us.
4. Provide a sample of your answering style! We want to hear your voice, how you would answer questions in your own way. How would you do this? Why, answer our sample asks:
-Help! I’m 14 and a girl and I don’t know if I’m asexual- my mom says there’s no such thing and I like some boys at school but I don’t want to have sex. My friends say I’ll change when I get older but I don’t know what to do. A boy asked me out to prom yesterday and I like him but I’m worried he’ll want sex?
-I tried coming out to my best friend and she was like “that’s some hipster, internet thing, there aren’t any people like that in the real world” and I don’t know what to do now? I don’t think she’ll ever accept me and I’m starting to wonder if maybe she’s right.
-Hi, I’m a college freshman and I finally feel comfortable letting people know about my asexuality. I’m a male asexual (heteroromantic) and I’m a little shy telling people about it because I worry they might think I’m gay or not enough of a man. Also I’ve been dating this girl for a few weeks and I really like her but I haven’t told her about my asexuality. Do you have any advice?
-I’m not sure if I’m asexual or not. I don’t know if I’ve ever been sexually attracted to someone before, but sometimes I like to masturbate, and porn gets me excited. Is that sexual attraction? Am I asexual?
This will not all fit in the ask box, so please submit your responses instead. Note that this means you need to have a tumblr account already set up - we love our acenons dearly, but if you want to be a mod, you need to have a blog where we can reach you!
Oh- and you have from now until Monday, Sept 1st, at 11:59 pm Eastern Standard Time (that’s 10:59 pm Central, 9:59 pm Mountain, and 8:59 pm Pacific, for all the continental US time zones - if you are not in the US, I’m sure Google can tell you what time that is). After that point, we will not accept submissions, as us mods will be busy reviewing the ones we have to quickly decide who we want to join us! Yay!
If you have any questions, feel free to message us. Good luck!
*whispers*… support all ace people.
All of them. Everyone of the goddamned spectrum. Most of us spent too long feeling very broken or confused to later get told we dont get to be part of the one community we feel we relate to.
Sex repulsed ace? You’re great. I feel.you. I know exactly what that’s like.
Sex positive ace? Man thats awesome. Whether it’s just from a like casual interest or curiosity in it as a fascinating topic or as an active participant because you like how it feels. If you arent attracted sexually to people you’re ace too and still welcome here.
Grey-a? I bet that was really confusing to figure out man, im so glad you’re here. Don’t worry I promise you’re awesome too, youre not a “fake” or anything like that.
Demi? You go, dude. Being attracted to your partner or someone you have that bond with doesnt make you less a part of our community. It doesnt meanmyou were “never really ace” or that now you’re totally allosexual. Demi is just as valid as other orientations.
Basically anyone that feels like they are part of the ace spectrum is awesome and you belong here, fuck what other people tell you.
Unless you’re a raging asshole and like a murderer or something. Then you arent awesome.
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When you say that vid, do you mean the abridged series vid or the original episode vid? Cause guys, I love YGO:TAS so so much but only vaguely like actual YGO. And LK, the guy who voices it is a Brit wooo!
The abridges series vid, of course! I grew up watching actual Yu-Gi-Oh, which I loved, despite how terribly cheesy it is (or maybe because of how cheesy it is) and I love TAS even more because how can you not??
AMUUUURICA F YEAH
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BROOKLYN RAGE! *kicks a door repeatedly*
Omg I just watched that video for the first time today THAT ACCENT THO there is nothing more perfect than the casting decision to give Joey an obnoxiously Brooklyn accent
OHMYGOSH I wasn’t excepting ANY responses and then this happened YES ANON YOU ARE THE BEST~
Asexual. I mean, clearly!
3. Grab the book nearest to you, turn to page 23, give me line 17.
"She could hold the compulsion off sometimes by gripping one tight and clicking it repeatedly."
It’s about a pen, I swear. D:
6. Do you sleep with or without clothes on?
I always sleep with pajamas! Right now I’m wearing my “I (maple leaf) Canada” PJs. :3
7. What’s your strangest talent?
The ability to charm strangers into giving me free food!
8. Girls…. (finish the sentence); Boys…. (finish the sentence)
Girls…are people. Boys…too, are people. Much people. Wow.
26. Are you happy with the person you’ve become?
Yes!! I’ve worked very hard to become the person I am now. And I still have a ways to go and I believe self-improvement is a life-long process.
34. Most attractive singer of your opposite gender?
WHY GENDER BINARY WHY I refuse to answer
45. What’s the worst injury you’ve ever had?
I hardly ever get injured, actually. So prob’ly the worst was shortly before leaving my last restaurant (Red Lobster) another server accidentally dumped hot tea on my foot and I got somewhat badly burned and…the restaurant didn’t even have burn cream. How do you not have burn cream at a restaurant??
76. In your opinion, what makes a great relationship?
Communication. First and foremost and always- communication! If you don’t feel safe talking to a partner about something ahhhh warning warning~
Great relationships, to me, are like- awesome friendships! I’m not terribly romantic, so for me relationships are like- yaaaay, someone to cuddle with and explore life with and who, for some reason, will listen to me ramble on about the cool butterfly leaf I found on the street, for instance. xD Great relationships are about shared interests, but also having separate interests. Great relationships are about mutual respect, about understanding one another, about trust.
Great relationships aren’t about changing another person or yourself- they’re about growing with someone else. They’re about support. They’re about giving another person the space and encouragement and whatever they need to reach their own potential.
They’re about waking up each day and choosing that person or people…over and over again. Because they’re good for you and you’re good for them~
77. How can I win your heart?
By cooking for me and buying me bubble tea (bonus points if you can somehow actually make your own bubble tea). By listening to me and trying to understand my perspectives on things. By talking about the things you love and are excited about. By being sillyyyy. By sending me hedgehogs. :3
get into the habit of not assuming a person’s gender
your life is worth living even if you’re “not doing anything”
your life is worth living even if you are “letting life pass you by”
your life is worth living even if you stay in bed all day every day watching netflix
you don’t have to be big, beloved, important, beautiful, wealthy or famous
there is dignity in just being
it is ok to be
you merely have to be